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Are Stockings Slutty?

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Hi quiet boy

Well my wife started to wear seams in the 70s and always wore them out. then she just stopped about 6 years ago when i asked her why she said she felt they were getting bad news and refused to wear them well now after being on here and with help from our good friends on here she now wears them with pride when we go out together belive me it has been a big struggle to convince her but she now knows this was silly as even dianna the princess of wales wore stockings as we all know and how stunning she loked in them. we have many lady friends on here and flickr that also wear stockings and look stunning in them so just take your time with her and point out that even the royals used to wear them. my wife now has a big new collection of stockings and beautiful lingerie and she looks so stunning when i dress her in them oh yes i get the job of getting her ready to go out thats half the fun belive me.

took a look at your gallery. the images are no less than wonderful. looks like a great reversal of fortune for you both...and as a result, very nice for us all. thank you for posting them

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Sorry to resurrect an older thread but I was always taught it is one's actions not one's clothing that makes you a slut. There's plenty of women who wear track suits everyday that would be more deserving of the title "slut". Enough said!

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Greetings there Saucy.

Well phrased observational statement. More than a few lassies I've known caused by appearance those to make assumptions. A couple of these were what I'll term "heavy duty" type Christians, and they were, in the true sense and chose to wear attire that many considered or found (myself included) provocative. That they were from a clime that held such attire to be pretty average and normal from where they hailed and further chose not to alter their appearance gained my respect, bolstered further by responses concerning what they wore. At least one person (a woman) received a black eye over inappropriate remarks. Yes, not so much what you look like as to how you act that determines much.

And Saucy, no need for apologies. The Forum is a place to express opinions, discuss concepts and ideas. Quite many times it has become heated and most times all were handled in a civil, respective manner, testimony to the regard that the members have concerning respect. QuietBoy generated a long standing post that generated a grand amount of response, another reflection of part of what the Forum is about. That you offered an angle that for one I overlooked is a perfect example of the "tone" the Forums should be and hold. Thanks Greatly for your input.

Fine Regards,

Dworkin

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If stockings had never been used in the making of pornography, would there be more women wearing stockings today?

And if so, would there be as many men fascinated by women wearing stockings?

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If stockings had never been used in the making of pornography, would there be more women wearing stockings today?

And if so, would there be as many men fascinated by women wearing stockings?

no. yes.

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I had some good and bad experiences while wearing stockings, most of the time I notice people talk behind my back while I wear FF stockings or any kind of fashion pantyhose or stockings. Here in Dallas they don't seem to be open to any fashion statement like this. I talked to some friends and relatives and it seems they don't understand the fashion statement I cary while wearing FF stockings or bullet bra's. They see me as being an outlaw fashion geek, in the same time I had a lot of positive feedback from friends, family and strangers who told me I carry my own personality with me. I the same time I was contacted by guys who ask me for my phone # and the question what I charge, not something I looking for or a fun night feeling so as you can see there is a mixed understanding from wearing stockings. Just sharing my experience and I still keep wearing stockings because I just love it for myself and the people who understand the love for stockings

Just my experience :)

Love Patty :):)

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Greetings there Patty.

At once, my appreciative compliments for your pluck, spunk and resolve by expressing your style in light of the idiocy you apparently regularly encounter. Allow me to address some of your issues and comment further on the current state of idiocy and assure you that there is no lack of that commodity anywhere I've been recently or otherwise.

Most folks talk behind you as they can't do so in front of you. Early on, we, all of us are bombarded by what I'll term the Specter of Uniform Conformity wherein we are conditioned to "fit" in while at the same time brainwashed into believing that by doing and wearing what everyone else is we are somehow unique or as I say, unique, like everyone else. When one dares to express individuality they become target for that which you've made note. This reflects an insecurity about their being and these people are much more comfortable babbling about a blonde bimbo who used to run around without panties or more currently a Hollywood wanna be that has an alcohol and drug problem. They would not recognize an original thought were they to sit on one. These same unique individualists also think Budweiser is beer and fail to have enough imagination to fill a thimble. Interestingly, thimbles are as archaic as stockings and I venture that many here have heard of a thimble, fewer know what exactly it is and fewer still are adept in its use. Essentially, these people you encounter are threatened by those with enough confidence to be who they are and make fun or worse about that which they do not understand. More on that Conformity later. I'm not particularly familiar with Texas save for four days in Houston back in the Great Northern Exodus (USA) back in the early 80's. Houston was booming and had a severe shortage of police. I interviewed for a possible position and got the "grilling", apparently as I was from Detroit. The Detroit Police Department has never had an enviable reputation and anyone who currently becomes a Detroit cop usually does so to gain some experience before moving on. To be sure, this reputation is and always has been justified. In Houston, I was hit with the fact that Detroit cops had "women" in their prowl cars. We yes, I called them Detroit Cops. Apparently in many places in the South (and New York State) at the time, mixed sexes in the same car was a no-no for reasons beyond my comprehension or logic. True, some cops had hookers in their cars, took naps and the Dunkin Donuts by my house was always full of cops in blue. Not very unusual to see a cop in uniform in a small bar drinking while on duty. I never considered a female officer anything more then what they usually were, a cop and my superior in experience and rank. This attitude rankled the Huston department and I could not wait to leave. I was working for Hertz at the time and an employee could for the price of gas "deadhead" a vehicle to the owing city. There were lots of Michigan cars in Texas at the time. Unfortunately, there was also a large convention in Detroit and all the cars were shipped via truck to be available back in Detroit and I had to wait for a Detroit car to come in. My brief experience and tells since have that Texas is pretty conservative and more so the further north one goes. Truly, I feel these peoples would not begin to understand you.

As to guys misinterpreting you and your perceived proclivities, I offer the following tale and how one gal I knew handled such. Many a turn ago, I was chums with a lass that showed considerable leg via hemlines when short was not in. She was also well endowed (very) and acted provocative, a little like a higher class evening woman. I'll stress, we were just casual pals for as she was divine to look at there were tremendous differences- she liked Country music, pick up trucks and I'm not at all attracted to big boobs and the real clincher was she smoked (tobacco). One particular night while we were drinking a fellow approached and asked outright for her number. She did what she'd done many a time, wrote down a bunch of zeros on a piece of paper. The guy did not take kindly to this and touched one of her breasts. He then wore the remains of her drink in his face. He in turn slapped her and he bore the brunt of a then empty (and heavy glass) in the face which required stitches. Before the barman could react, in an act right out of the movies, a male member of the crowd acted to save her honor. Short part, the fellow had the balls to apologize so no charges resulted and the man of hour and my cohort went on to marriage. That lasted seven years and no, I did not go to the wedding. Never found out what the dissolution was about. I always thought the multiple zeros was rather clever.

As to the conformity issue, I'll relate a story I keyed long ago at the "old" Forum illustrating the mindlessness of the minions. There is a place named Cedar Point, billed as "One of America's Great Amusement Parks" and in this, it lives up to that title. The finest arcade I've ever seen existed there once (and may still) with machines working that were older than I and none had an "Out of Order" sign, they were that well maintained. I believe Texas has a "Six Flags", a very similar type park. Now, the first time I ever went to Cedar Point was when I was the ripe old age of 36, many a turn ago. Great place and wonderful experience, especially with a headful of acid. The Roller Coasters when very stoned are a truly fantastic and grand experience, just indescribable.... The Conformity Issue really came to light that day. My companion for the day, a long time confederate always had a penchant, well, outright fetish for white. At the time he even worked for a place with the name of "White and White" specializing in medical wares. This liking of white was described in detail as in nurses (which at this time many still wore the classic white uniforms) right down to the white enameled eyelets on shoes that had laces. He also had a medical fetish. That particular day had a plethora of people wearing white. Now I'll admit, we being of the male side tended (and still do) look more at the female side of this equation though there was a tremendous amount of the shade to be seen worn by all. Were it possible to make the people invisible and just see the clothes there would be a very basic theme with little variance, white shoes (sneakers, less often sandals -this was far before the ubiquity of flip flops), white socks, white shorts, white tops and the occasional white hat. There literally was little else and this was predominant among the younger set but was also regardless of age. The sight was overwhelming and I'm glad I had dark shades to mute the glare. This observation was confirmed separately by the employees we interfaced with so it was not just not our altered mind state. Anyone who has ever been to one of these parks knows that they are HUGE and by noon there were many, many thousands of people. The effect had a pronounced affect on my cohort. He admitted it was too much white! Yeow, was this even possible? Hard to believe too much of a desired thing can diminish your lust. This demonstrates the profound prevalent flock mentality while many at one or some time had the idea that they had left the pen. Back in the "revolutionary" 60's there was a lot of talk promoting individuality, to "be free", "be yourself", "escape". Actually, there was very little of that as even then, everyone looked as a variation of everyone else and fell along with whatever actions in the manner of behaviors were required. To be sure, there was a large division between many age groups and anyone over 30 was "old", part of the generational divide along with changes aplenty as the "old" and set ways came into conflict with newer ones. The later 60's and part of the early 70 were to be sure a whacky, wild, woolly, sometimes wonderful time complete and replete with a lot of the same social stigma that persists today and I'm glad I had the chance to be there at least on occasions. As with economics, when all is "adjusted" for inflation, those times were not as bizarre as they might seem in retrospect. Ultimately, the large amount of those folks from the era became their folks (as in parents), doing the modern version of what their parents did. I maintain much is the same today just in different skins. No matter how many things change, they remain pretty much the same. The 60's were a time of social upheavals (long overdue) in which women were still treated in a misogynistic manner (as evidenced by the way women were portrayed in media of the time in flicks, tele shows and writings) and governments and their lackeys felt supreme. There were those that made positive changes so not all was a wash. Part of this comes from a thread started by Micki over in the "Off Topic" section under the name of "For Those Born Before The 1980's" which started dialogue between two masters of diversion, Gumband and Melmoth which further offers a related nice tie in.

Patty, please don't stop intimidating those about you; your type is sorely needed and always shall be. Sounds like you've friends enough who are not threatened by you or your quirks. And, should I ever by chance happen to Dallas, do let me ask for your phone number... even should it be all zeros.

Best,

Dworkin

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It's not stockings that are slutty it's the wearer. And there is nothing wrong in acting slutty every once in a while.

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Only in the eyes of a unqualified beholder! Other than that, absolutely not!

Susan

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Greetings to you all.

Beeing new to the forums I couldn't help my going through this wonderfull topic (a little too late I am afraid :( . I suppose it brought up some of my own experiences..

Thanks to all of you (Susan, TC, Seemsffun etc) for your keen observations. I am happy to be here.

For me, there is nothing wrong with beeing slutty for someone you care for, especially if you choose to be a stocking slut :) . In the end, thats what sex is all about isn't it?

Take care

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here is my opinion as a woman:

i understand why she probably thinks of stockings as slutty, from seeing pornography and movies about prostitutes like Moulin Rouge. what you need to do is replace these images with your own: collect together a few (not too many- you don't want her to think this is all you think about) photos of women dressed in stockings who epitomize the OPPOSITE of slutty. elegant, refined, classy, mysterious, expensive, exclusive, discerning, special. find the archetypes that represent what stockings are to you. shows her the ads for the different brands- browse the store. honestly, i would NOT show her the forums because frankly, she is not into them and most people here are VERY into them, and while you may indeed fetishize stockings you don't want your fetishism to be the focus- its her seeing these beautiful garments in a new light. in addition, she may think that the only benefit of stockings over tights is easy access..you know what i mean. well, explain to her that isn't it- it is about wearing luxurious garments, only the finest things for such a fine woman, and stockings are preferable to tights because their quality is inherently better: they are more durable, comfortable, they fit better, and they make more architectural sense rather than having the penguin crotch effect. they are beautiful whether hidden or not- whereas tights are not so great looking on their own, IMO. good luck, and try to not make your desire for this to seem like a big deal..just relax and coax her a bit :)

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Greetings Mulberryleaf and Peri.

Both of you bring on valid points and perspectives.

Peri, allow me to say you are never too late to this party and I'd say very few that occur here. Input in my opinion is always welcome. As to slutty or whatever trappings; based on your phrasings then I should say that whatever is acceptable between people in interactions with each other (or more) should be considered acceptable. That applies to wide circumstances and I hold that whatever any do as long as they don't trample or otherwise invade another's spaces and/or involve kids, so be so. There is a certain attraction that I fully understand about one acting "slutty", however you care to define that and should that work for you and or anyone you are interacting with than so it shall be. The most here are not enamored with associating hosiery and/or stockings with being a slut so forgive those that may feel slighted. Like beauty, that is in the eye of the beholder.

And Mulberryleaf, I am not really able to endorse your recommendations or views, should I understand your particular perspective with regards to shielding Quietboy's girls eyes from this site or topic. She has issues well beyond what she I feel would be able to absorb and has a built in bias cultured long on ago for reasons that shall probably be never known and she cares little to explore them. I made mention to Quietboy that I felt they were incompatible on many levels and the stockings issue was rather minor in the Big Picture as I like to say. I like to tell jokes and told one in my dentists office about a "Grandpa Pot Tale" which caused a tech to tell me that the dentists nephew (all of seven years old) was in the next booth and could hear me! Zounds! Folks, we are living in the year 2000 plus. Kids watch the tele. You don't think they are exposed to this, more or worse? Mulberryleaf, I do understand what you are trying to say. I feel it simply is a wash as her mind has been made, long before the encounter with Quietboy and yes, there is that ever present construct that classic stockings are somehow related to trashy sex visions or more and by gosh, they always have been as evidenced by the earliest imagery to include the earliest photography that I placed in another post most recently. The two are inter connected, period. How someone wearing such attire comports themselves says volumes about themselves. Not to beat up Quietboy, he started a very spirited post which has gleaned wonderful responses and resultant insights and I feel he ultimately made a very choice and wise decision. That he asked opinions here at SHQ, to coin a phrase, was priceless.

Glad both of you chose to board the train so to say. Welcome aboard. I really doubt any conductor shall ever ask you for a ticket. Should that happen, contact me or Susan and we will address that straight away.

Fine Regards,

Dworkin

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Have you ever seen an ad for stockings, on a bill board, on a poster in a shopping centre or on a packet of stockings?

Its always a nice pair of legs in stockings and usually high heeled sandals though shoes too are used.

So how does a lady go from no leg covering, to tights in winter, or pantie hose or stockings and suddenly become slutty.

I would suggest to these people recconnect your fingers (typing) or mouth (saying) to your brain (logic)

If its good enough to show stockings in an ad, its good enough to wear them, anywhere, and not be slutty.

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Greetings Mulberryleaf and Peri.

Both of you bring on valid points and perspectives.

Peri, allow me to say you are never too late to this party and I'd say very few that occur here. Input in my opinion is always welcome. As to slutty or whatever trappings; based on your phrasings then I should say that whatever is acceptable between people in interactions with each other (or more) should be considered acceptable. That applies to wide circumstances and I hold that whatever any do as long as they don't trample or otherwise invade another's spaces and/or involve kids, so be so. There is a certain attraction that I fully understand about one acting "slutty", however you care to define that and should that work for you and or anyone you are interacting with than so it shall be. The most here are not enamored with associating hosiery and/or stockings with being a slut so forgive those that may feel slighted. Like beauty, that is in the eye of the beholder.

Glad both of you chose to board the train so to say. Welcome aboard. I really doubt any conductor shall ever ask you for a ticket. Should that happen, contact me or Susan and we will address that straight away.

Fine Regards,

Dworkin

Dworkin, thank you for your warm welcome. Its always a pleasure to read your posts. It makes me even happier to be here.

I myself certainly don't concider hosiery and especially stockings slutty. In that context I understand what Mulberryleaf is trying to say. I just said that I would't mind the other way around either :)

But , as a woman, having misconceptions or predjudice about wearing them, even if you have to do it for someone you love, it is something that its not likely to change, believe me.. I could't more agree with you in that matter Dworkin.

And yes, some people, like me too, are VERY into stockings. But I think my girlfriend should also know this part of me too, otherwise I would only saying half the truth to her. Keeping an important part of us in the darkness can only create problems in the future.

Best regards to both of you

Peri

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Does the the slogan of an advertising boutique of genuine nylons "Not everybody wants to be on the nice list...." DISCOURAGE woman trying them?

Additional in a picture of nylons: "GIO, for those on the naughty list...) 

 

I dont think that this is the right advertisement of woman getting nylons to wear more occasionally/ first timers or is it?  

 

 

ps.: I didnt want to start a new topic, so I found the most relevant to it at the moment...

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Good point, snakebite..It may be that the advertisers are trying to present an image of 'naughty' as being in some way beyond the 'normal' and that this is a positive spin on stockings wearing...It does, on the face of it, seem to pander to the 'stockings=bad' perception though. Therefore, the purpose of advertising being to create sales and profit, they seem to have perhaps unknowingly, created their very own 'shot themselves in the foot' list..?

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i remember having the same feeling when my husband asked me to wear them for him back in the 80's. he respected that and for the most part the nylons and garter belt stayed in the house where being a slut was no problem. eventually i'd make an occasional foray out in them for extra dressing up. mostly i'd wear pantyhose out which he also enjoyed seeing me in. and many times when we got home i'd change into my nylons and garter belt.

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I was once somewhat like that. I never thought women who wore them were slutty, but I always pictured them as "bedroom attire" because we "grew out of those garters". What a silly nilly I was!! 

Fast forward to now, and I can't imagine wearing pantyhose (tights) anymore. Ever.  It's fully fashioned vintage all the way, baby! 

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I've always considered a woman wearing as a 'state of mind'. It consummates the aura of a woman, which enhances the feminine mystique. I believe this wearing of hosiery projects a woman's femininity, professionalism, confidence, and beauty. While 'slutty' may not be the best way in describing this feeling, I believe this is part of the package, as well.:58674bde4b3fb_EmojiSmiley-02:

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noun
1.
Disparaging and Offensive. a sexually promiscuous woman, or awoman who behaves or dresses in an overtly sexual way.
2.
Informal. a person with a seemingly insatiable but often undiscerningdesire to do or have something specified: guilty of being a shoe slut;
a book slut, reading five books at once.
3.
Archaic.
  1. a prostitute; harlot.
  2. an immoral or dissolute woman.
  3. a dirty, slovenly woman.

 

Well..after googling the specific explanation of the word , as cut and pasted above and going by some posts, then the answer would have to be, yes.

But I do not believe this to be the case with everyone.

 

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10 hours ago, MrsDzineGuy said:

I was once somewhat like that. I never thought women who wore them were slutty, but I always pictured them as "bedroom attire" because we "grew out of those garters". What a silly nilly I was!! 

Fast forward to now, and I can't imagine wearing pantyhose (tights) anymore. Ever.  It's fully fashioned vintage all the way, baby! 

When the Lady adorner is as sensually classy and stylish as you my dear it can never be described as slutty.

KtF
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2 hours ago, Its Me said:
noun
1.
Disparaging and Offensive. a sexually promiscuous woman, or awoman who behaves or dresses in an overtly sexual way.
2.
Informal. a person with a seemingly insatiable but often undiscerningdesire to do or have something specified: guilty of being a shoe slut;
a book slut, reading five books at once.
3.
Archaic.
  1. a prostitute; harlot.
  2. an immoral or dissolute woman.
  3. a dirty, slovenly woman.

 

Well..after googling the specific explanation of the word , as cut and pasted above and going by some posts, then the answer would have to be, yes.

But I do not believe this to be the case with everyone.

Spot-on Its Me, you really are a wonderful person to have on this site.

I think if someone tries hard they can probably make a lot of clothing look slutty but I think look is the operative word?

If you want to look slutty you can and if you want to look stylish and classy you can too.

Looking at your descriptions of the word leads me to believe that the vast majority of our lovely Lady adorners and posters as well as some of the Gurls intend to tease and please and not be considered as anything other.

KtF
:58674be234469_EmojiSmiley-08:

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As said many times on this forum Lady S ALWAYS wears Gio FFN's and has NEVER had any adverse comments...just the opposite in fact. As said by others in this post it is mainly the fault of the media giving them a slutty name...why call them slutty...sexy would be more accurate which to me and obviously everyone else on here is a more accurate definition. I am of an age when stockings were the norm and they were never called slutty as they were everyday attire so why start now? I think it is ignorance on the part of the person to call them as such.

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No, not at all. If a wearer takes the time and makes the effort to correctly attire themselves in elegant or everyday hosiery,that means they are being conscientious about their apperance. "Slutty" they are not!

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On 06/12/2017 at 6:17 PM, leggypat said:

i remember having the same feeling when my husband asked me to wear them for him back in the 80's. he respected that and for the most part the nylons and garter belt stayed in the house where being a slut was no problem. eventually i'd make an occasional foray out in them for extra dressing up. mostly i'd wear pantyhose out which he also enjoyed seeing me in. and many times when we got home i'd change into my nylons and garter belt.

Double Deniered Delicious Desirability, Pat 😉

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